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I’m really pissed right now.  I’m writing this completely off the cuff and don’t have time to edit but screw it.

I’m only going to link this disgusting, insulting, morally objectionable bullshit in the interest of full disclosure and you being able to read it for yourself I think that’s essential, because I could be wrong. But like my Irish Studies teacher said about Irishman:  If you can’t go off half cocked, why go.  

Yesterday KMOV (channel 4 in St. Louis) ran a follow up story, fed by AP, about the family at the Ethical Society that Trish knew pretty well.  You probably saw something about it a month ago…Doctor from Alton…Miami hotel…jumped after throwing his 2 kids out while this wife, the kids’ mother, was in the bathroom?  Both of the boys were in the Sunday school at the Ethical Society, Qinuo (pronounced Cheeno) taught a class here and there as did Ed from what I understand.

The new article paints a picture that she may have been complicit in the murder suicide, or worse that she may have been doing something to warrant.  The reporter took quotes from her 911 call (who is in their right mind when calling 911 in that situation huh?), snippets from the investigation, and trying to make it seem that the blame falls on Qinuo. 

A few points:

• “Edward Van Dyk did not suffer from mental illness and was not on any sort of medication his father said.”  Sadly, it’s not unusual to find out until it’s too late.  Not saying he did, only met him once, but something was going on.  Does the author think a healthy mind comes up with that action?
• “Qinuo Van Dyk and the couple’s two sons arrived in Miami Beach three days before Edward Van Dyk joined the family there the day before the tragedies, though Ramos’ investigation found it was unusual for the family to travel separately.”  So f*cking what?  It’s weird for Trish and I to not arrive together somewhere but that’s life in the big busy city.  Go figure the head of oncology at a hospital might not be able to get away at the same time as his wife and kids, who have the benefit being home (where the brilliant kids were homeschooled by Qinuo by the way).
• “Thomas Cromer wrote that authorities sought to seize from the Van Dyk home any computer equipment and documents tied to the Van Dyks’ marital or financial status, including any wills. Ramos said Qinuo Van Dyk initially agreed to have the family’s home searched but later withdrew that consent, Cromer’s affidavit read.”  First, whoever wrote this needs to be introduced to my boot and get that Grinch heart out of them.  Woman just lost her whole family and the author is insinuating there may be a monetary reason that a 5’3, 120lb or so woman hurled her 2 kids and 6’4″ husband out of a hotel? I don’t think I’m stretching too far on that.  Second, there’s no criminality in this whole thing.  Zero.  Zilch.  With media treatment like this why would she let them in? 
• “No one came to the door at the Van Dyk residence Monday, and the family had no listed phone number. The Associated Press left a written request for comment.”  No shit Sherlock.  This article is certainly written to provoke a response though don’t you think?  I think I’m stratching a bit in saying the press hasn’t gotten any direct comments from Qinuo and they are hungry to hear what she has to say.  Maybe they’re pissed that she robbed them of their money shot by leaving the 3 coffins inside the funeral home while the leaches ran to the back to take pictures.

The whole thing is about getting people to watch their news and read their websites, regardless of the reality of someones surroundings.

The only message that anyone needs to know is that they were a happy, loving family.  Qinuo spokes those words at the wake, at the funeral, directly to Trish.  I heard them with my own ears and felt the truth of what she was saying.  A terrible thing had just happened but she was able to look at the scope of their marriage and not focus on what brought it to an end.  And honestly, I don’t even think that much is anyone’s business.

But having quoted some of AP’s words directly, I must relent and give them full credit for being incompetent jerks.  I’m shure there was a reason, but it’s seems a shame that Channel 4 got an AP feed on a local story.

What prompted my anger is that this reopens the sorrow Trish was feeling and her anger in seeing how Qinuo is being treated by the slanted reporting only adds to my anger.  Qinuo is a good person in my estimation and in a billion years didn’t earn or deserve the destruction of her life.  And she doesn’t deserve to be spoken of by a few reporters who skipped J-school and went to a-hole school instead.

I’m done.  Feel a bit better.  I did edit a lot of profanity.  I wish I had Don’t Believe The Hype by Public Enemy somewhere to link.

Thanks for tolerating.